It Never Will
Today is my 2 year wedding anniversary. It is a quiet marker on a happy path, mostly with ups and some downs. A road built on the constant steady love and respect that we have for each other that pulls us ever deeper in our commitment to each other. I emailed my in-laws earlier this year, to wish them a happy anniversary. They are going on almost 40 years together, through many admitted terrors and trials, joys and triumphs. In my note I thanked them for sticking together through thick and thin and said how grateful I am to have them both in my life. The email I got back resonates with me still, so I asked my father-in-law for permission to share his sage words:
"You can't say, I wish I'd have done this or that because "this or that" is always some sort of idealized vision that you don't bother to remember would also be filled with it’s own trials and tribulations. It really is a joy to come through it all intact, stronger for the experience and it gives you a feeling of fulfillment that a lifetime of bailing out at the first sign of discomfort would never give you. It's worth it; especially the peaceful feeling you get when you realize all the stuff that you thought was gonna kill you hasn't and you now know that it never will. We bet you'll be saying the same thing a hundred years from now when you two are as old as us!"
Happy Anniversary to a man who never fails to make me smile, who takes my breath away, who makes the bad days a little less awful and the good days even more wonderful. Thank you for being more than I ever could have hoped or wished. May we say the same, 100 years from now.